being gay really opens you up to shrimp emotions the regular human population will never understand. i don’t think there is anything that compares to watching a fairytale set up specifically for two girls to kiss, only for them to actually share true loves kiss against all expecations (because you know better) and then to have it end with “because no love is stronger than friendship” i’ll fucking murder a bitch
I see a lot of people who tell young peopleāespecially young people who are heading into collegeāthat they shouldĀ ādo what they love.ā And theyāre right. You should do what you love.
But thereās a world of difference between doing what you love for you,Ā and doing what you love for a paycheck.Ā
I went to undergrad for graphic design and 3-D designāart and more art, I usually sayāand I loved it. You know what I didnāt love? Trying to collect my fees from clients. Trying to meet unrealistic, over-simplified or over-specific briefs from people who didnāt know what they were talking about. Coming home, having worked creatively all day, with no creative juice left for the things I wanted to do.
You know what I would tell you instead? Do something that you can be interested in, with people you like.
You donāt have to love it. Loving your work can be a lot, and it often means you have to live in your job 24/7. Some people can do that. Not everyone can, or should.Ā But if you can find work thatās interesting enough that it doesnāt feel tedious, and people you can enjoy spending your 9-5 with, and you can make money, thatās great! It means you can do the things you love for you.
Iām in law school now. Itās interesting work, and difficult, and I like doing it. I like how complicated it gets, and I like the stories it tells. But I donāt come home and read law journals for fun. I come home, and I sculpt, and I draw, and I paint, and I read. I do these things for me.
And I love it.Ā
This is still circulating and itās been a few years, so let me update. Iām officially a lawyer now, and still not a single regret about this choice. Settling into a stable job is such a gift and a privilege in ways I didnāt expect. Iām not going to repeat the advice given above, but I want to make it clear that having passed through my student years and into my career proper, I stand by this in every respect.Ā
I chose to take a job that was not the most high-paying option available to me, because it wouldnāt require me to bill my time, I would have a better work-life balance, I found the work more engaging, and I really loved the office. It has paid off so much.
I get to walk to work, and most days I leave my laptop behind when I walk home at five. I have a little house with a little garden and a bunch of seedlings sprouting too early for spring. I have two stupid cats and two stupider doves and they make me happy. I put a little money into food and shelter for the neighborhood strays and name all my visiting opossums Harold. My art gets done when I feel inspiration striking, sometimes in the middle of the night, and I let my hobby fund itself without the pressure of deadlines. There is so much joy in making only what I want to. My sleep schedule has stabilized. For the first time in my life, I know the shape my days will take weeks and months away, because my routine is consistent, and I never knew what a peace that was. My job is predictable but never boring, interesting but not consuming, and itās just a job.Ā
There are people who will tell youāpeople who have told meāthat turning my back on an artistic career or a career you have āpotentialā in is selling out, or settling.Ā
Let me tell you, friends, I have never felt so settled.Ā
Like thisš is exactly the point. Iāve recently picked up woodcarving. And as i showed my friend the stuff I made she was like: are u gonna sell it?
Like that was the first thought of hers. And idk thatās a little sad to me. I mean there is nothing at all wrong to make a lil extra profit with your hobby or make it your profession. But this attitude that has emerged in the last years that your creative hobby HAS to be for profit is alarming.
Like, i feel that is not exactly a healthy attitude to have about things you do for your enjoyment in your leisure time. And sometimes this attitude diminishes the actual worth of creative Hobbys.
I was drawing gligar and ended up giving it Ingo’s hat. i couldnt resist continuing further and having it do Ingo impressions for the sneaslets (much to Ingo’s amusement)
I love that in the time since Twilight was big we’ve learned that Kristen Stewart is actually a fantastic actress and super cool human being and all the hate against her was unwarranted and rooted in misogyny while also discovering Robert Pattinson is yes a good actor but also one of the weirdest people alive